I’m turning 25 in October, and it’s affecting me more than it should. I’m caught between the “growing up phase” and the “it’s time to grow up stage,” but I haven’t really considered what my needs are for my future.
But just last week, my best friend sent me a list of 25 Things to Have Before Age 25; while most of the list I agreed with, I decided I had more to add to the list. What I Need Before 25 is a comprehensive list of what I think is important, and you most likely will find it important too!
– You have to love yourself before you can love someone else. At the risk of sounding selfish, this point is key to happiness. Many relationship begin and end with the one member too in love with the other to care about one’s own needs and happiness. A relationship can’t make you happy: you have to make you happy.
– The realization that although it seems everyone around you is getting married and having kids, it’s okay not to be hitched. It’ll come as its time. And if you are married with little ones running around, hats off to you!
– A best friend that will most likely be with you your entire life. Self-explanatory and very important.
– Have a concrete (or close to) career plan. Even if you tend to change your path as much as you change your underwear, it’s good to be on track. Sometimes I feel as if I may be straying a little behind my colleagues, but I keep telling myself that I have life experience to add to my life of credentials (or so I’d like to think so.) And although I wish I was done school and participating in my professional career, I don’t think I’m ready. So no, no doctorate yet, just a goal and a clear path ahead of me.
– To accept that it’s okay to spend an entire day to yourself because you deserve it. Whether it be catching up on Netflix or reading The Lord of The Rings Trilogy in one day, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Odds are you are busy ALL OF THE TIME. So take a day, shut the world out, and be happy about it.
– Get on track with your money; this means life insurance and savings. Starting off early is the best way to go and you’ll thank yourself down the road! Even if you feel as if you never have enough, make room in your budget.
– Stop trying to impress others. I don’t know why it takes almost 25 years to realize this, but our social lives tend to revolve around how many ways we can pull ourselves to make other people like us. Around this age, we realize who are true friends (and family are,) and we lose time and patience for those who prove they don’t matter.
– The ability to speak your mind, all of the time. In the spirit of not having to impress others, we don’t have to tell little white lies. Lies are exhausting and honesty is key. (And no, two Jack Nicholson memes in a row was not planned, he’s just awesome.)
– Plan a trip. Even if you don’t go on the trip for a few years, at least you have something to look forward to. I have planned a trip to Ireland to dig up some family history; think of a place you’ve always wanted to visit and just go for it!
– Take up a new hobby or learn a new skill. It’s never too late to learn a new language or get involved in a new sport.
– Do what you say and mean what you do. Words can go a long way, and actions go farther. This is something I also need to work on and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
– Accepting that you’re not that old. Yeah, it may be a quarter of a century, but there’s a lot of time left. Have fun and use it wisely!