The other day, I realized I’m turning 25 this year, and I mildly freaked out.
I mean… it’s not like it was a shocking new fact I learned, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that 1/4 of my life has past, and there is SO MUCH I want to do. Not that I have many regrets, but there are things that if I could do them again (or not do again), I would change.
So here is my list of things to all you young women out there, and all the mid-20’s women who relate, I think everyone should do (or not do) before they are 25:
1. Don’t Settle In Your Romantic Relationships OR POST EVERY MOMENT OF IT ON FACEBOOK:
Be picky, and don’t stay in a bad relationship. Jumping from one exclusive bad relationship to the next is not any better and no one wants to see your facebook updates every month. Spend you’re time doing anything else and JUST DON’T SETTLE. Date more than one guy at a time. Be honest to the people you’re dating and yourself, and everything will turn out the way it should. Don’t rush and make sure you know what you want, before you you make it “facebook official” (i.e. commit)
2. Don’t Settle in Any Relationship:
Relationships in any aspect are hard work, and take time and effort to maintain. Family and friends included. It’s a difficult to figure out who your true friends are and who are just there for the good times. Have a good time with anyone you want, but make conscious decisions about who you really want in your life and who you trust.
3. Travel Everywhere and Anywhere You Can:
It’s great to do a Eurotrip or a visit a whole different country, but also try doing weekend trips to places around you that you might not think of. Once you have a career and a family, it’s not as easy to do short long weekend vacations because you’re spending whatever time you have free trying to make everyone else happy.
4. Go to Museums and Landmarks:
When you do travel, see things you would never be able to see otherwise! Shopping and drinking is great too, but seeing art and history is part of what life is all about, and sometimes it will be more fun than you think!
5. Learn About Different Cultures:
I’ve found this to be a big one that, thank God, my parents made sure I did. There have been many situations where I have to explain certain things in the news or in conversation to friends who did not have this privilege. Don’t be close minded. Different cultures have amazing things that you might never have thought of doing or trying otherwise! Even if it’s as small as trying something like sushi. Do and try everything you can so that when you’re older you will be well versed and be able to have intelligent conversations.
6. Learn Another Language:
This is something I keep saying I want to do and never get around to it. This helps with getting a job in the future and apparently is much easier if you start at a young age. Plus, it gives you a whole other world of potential friends (and many people find another language sexy!)
7. Take Risks and Do Something That Scares You Every Month:
Don’t go all criminal on me, but try things you tell yourself would never dare to do! This can be something like a roller coaster you’ve been dreading, or telling that kid in your class you’ve been crushing on that you like them. Take risks in life and sometimes the reward is greater than you could ever imagine!
9. Spend as MUCH TIME with Your Friends and Family as Possible:
In highschool and university, it’s easy to walk down the hall, or hang out after class. In the REAL WORLD? Uhm. No. You schedule that sh*t and it’s not easy. This is a real conversation I’ve had with my best friend on more than one occasion in the last year:
Me: “Hey! Are you free Wednesday night at 9 for a drink?”
Them: “No. When I get home from grocery shopping, I really have to clean my apartment and do laundry because its been like a week. Plus I’m trying to save for you know.. the FUTURE. So I have to make my dinner instead of going out. What about Sunday?”
Me: “Ah. I have to go up north to see my boyfriends parents.”
Them: “What about next thursday?”
Me: “That could work! 9?”
Them: “What about like.. 7. I need to make sure I’m home early because I have to work in the morning.”
9. Start a Workout Routine as Young as Possible and DON’T STOP:
This is something I regret so much not getting into at a younger age. I played sports in highschool, but university just took over and I gained a lot of weight. My friends who were all in Gymnastics or Skating or Tennis as children and kept at it, still can eat whatever they want without really gaining weight. I mean, they still work out occasionally, but the metabolic benefit is something I can’t describe and I REALLY wish I had!
10. Learn Something New Every Day:
There is really something to be said about not getting stuck in your own ways. When you get older, you think you know more than you actually do because you have been taught things that may or may not change. As Phoebe from friends said:
“Could you just open your mind like this much, ok? Wasn’t there a time when the brightest minds in the world believed that the world was flat? And, up until like what, 50 years ago, you all thought the atom was the smallest thing, until you split it open, and this like, whole mess of crap came out. Now, are you telling me that you are so unbelievably arrogant that you can’t admit that there’s a teeny tiny possibility that you could be wrong about this?” Source
With all that being said, Jess and I decided to give you something new that you can try to learn RIGHT NOW. It’s how to do a headstand! Don’t worry. It’s just as hard as it looks, so make sure you have someone there to help you.